The primary difference
between a Christian wedding and non-Christian wedding is Christ.
Christians who marry are making a commitment to Christ, as well as
to each other, and that commitment should be obvious to everyone who
attends the wedding. In a
non-Christian wedding, the
couple—particularly the bride—is usually the focal point. In
a Christian wedding, Christ is the focal point.
A Christian couple who truly want to glorify Christ through their
wedding can start with the early preparations, beginning with
biblical premarital counseling with their pastor.
Premarital counseling based upon sound biblical principles outlines
the roles of the husband and wife as they relate to each other and
to their prospective children (Ephesians
The wedding affirms before
God and friends and family that the couple’s desire is to live
according to God’s plan for the family.
The wedding ceremony should also be a reflection of the couple’s
dedication to the glory of Jesus Christ. Every part of the service,
from the music to the vows to the message delivered by the
officiator, should reflect that commitment. Music should be reverent
and Christ-honoring, not worldly or flippant.
Vows should be taken with
the couple’s full understanding that the words they speak to one
another constitute a lifetime commitment and with the knowledge that
what they promise to one another, they are promising to God.
The message delivered by the pastor should reflect these truths and
A Christian couple should
choose their attendants carefully and with their commitment to
Christ in mind. Bridesmaids and groomsmen aren’t simply there
to dress up the ceremony.
Their presence testifies to their agreement with, and their promise
to support, the commitment of the couple to honor Christ in their
marriage. Along that line, the bridal gown and bridesmaids'
dresses should be modest and appropriate for standing before God.
If there is a reception, it should be equally Christ-honoring.
Although non-Christian family members are often present at Christian
weddings and receptions, serving alcohol at a Christian reception
sends the wrong message to the unbelievers, a message that says
there really is very little difference between those who profess
Christ as Lord and those who do not. Even if the believers who plan
the wedding see nothing wrong with alcohol and partake of it with a
clear conscience, other Christians may be offended by the presence
of alcohol, and we are not
to use our liberty to cause anyone to stumble.
A couple whose wedding is
Christ-honoring will remember the beauty and seriousness of the
wedding for a lifetime and will find it a wonderful way to begin
their life together.
Source: Adapted from an article at