I was born in the 1950’s. My, how things have changed.
Behavior accepted as the norm today would have been seen as despicable back then.
Children addressing adults by their first names was unacceptable. I served as a volunteer to the Boy Scouts for over 14 years. When I was Scoutmaster, our scouts addressed me as “Mr. Hazzard”. Our scouts were expected to show the same respect to all of our adult assistants as well. And, we took our hats off indoors. We strove to “Do a good turn daily”.
To see men sitting while an elderly person or a woman was standing on a crowded bus or train used to be unthinkable. It was common decency for a man to give up his seat. Today, in some cities there are ordinances requiring public conveyances to set aside seats posted "Senior Citizen Seating."
Why do we need Laws to replace common decency?
My son, Preston Jr. is a head director of the Creekview High School Mustang Band, in Carrolton, TX … the school is only a couple of miles from that first small house we had built just before he was born in 1974. Some of his stories and experiences in the public schools would amaze you. Foul language is spoken by children in front of and sometimes to teachers and other adults.
When I was a youngster, it was unthinkable to use foul language to an adult; it would have meant a smack across the face. Back then, parents and teachers didn't have child-raising "experts" to tell them that "time out" is a means of discipline.
Is foul language to, or in the presence of teachers conducive to an atmosphere of discipline and respect necessary for effective education? If not, how would you propose it be controlled?
Years ago, simply sassing a teacher would have meant a trip to the vice principal's office for an attitude adjustment administered with a paddle. Years ago, the lowest of lowdown men would not say the kind of things often said to or in front of women today. Gentlemanly behavior protected women from coarse behavior.
Today, we expect sexual harassment laws to restrain coarse behavior.
Years ago, a young lady who allowed a guy to have his hand in her rear pocket as they strolled down the street would have been seen as a slut.
Today, baby showers are held for unwed mothers. I even had one nephew from out of state, who had an invitation sent to us for his girlfriend’s baby shower. Months later, we got an announcement of a birth, but it wasn’t with the same girlfriend. The first girlfriend declared that her baby wasn’t his. But since then, the same nephew has proudly produced two more kids, out of wedlock, in addition to his first child he had with his ex-wife. Yesteryear, such an acceptance of illegitimacy would have been unthinkable. Now, before you accuse me of being “a prude", I'd ask you whether high rates of illegitimacy make a positive contribution to a civilized society. If not, how would you propose that illegitimacy be controlled? In years past, it was controlled through social sanctions like disgrace and shunning.
Policemen and laws can never replace customs, traditions and moral values as a means for regulating human behavior. At best, the police and criminal justice system are the last desperate line of defense for a civilized society. Our increased reliance on laws to regulate behavior is a measure of how uncivilized we've become.
The failure to fully transmit values and traditions to subsequent generations represents one of the failings of the so-called greatest generation. The Bible teaches us that the father is held responsible to teach his children truth when they're young (Prov. 19:18) and are at home so that when they grow up they will be believers. As a whole, Christian parents, specifically men, seemed to have dropped the ball when it comes to overseeing their children learning scripture. Consider Deuteronomy 6:6-9:
"These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as frontals on your forehead. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates." NASB
Fathers, are your kids marrying within the Faith? Christians are commanded to be equally yoked.
II Corinthians 6:14: “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?”
Are they “shacking up” or “living together” instead of getting married? The Bible teaches complete abstinence outside of (and before) marriage. Scriptures such as 1 Corinthians 7:2 indicate that sex before marriage is immorality. Sex before marriage is just as wrong as adultery and other forms of sexual immorality (including homosexuality), because they all involve having sex with someone you are not married to. The Bible tells us to avoid the appearance of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22; Ephesians 5:3), to flee from immorality, and not to cause anyone to stumble or be offended. As a result, it is not honoring to God for a couple to live together before marriage.
the first few chapters of Genesis, God fills the earth with large
numbers of different kinds of life. He doesn't just put a few fish in
the ocean; it "abounds" with them. But when it comes to mankind, He
makes just one male and one female, and those two were to become "one
flesh." The implication from
Genesis 2:24 is that this "one woman for one man for one
lifetime" was a principle not just for Adam and Eve but for all who
would be born to a father and mother. Jesus commented on this Genesis
passage when the Jewish leaders brought up the topic of divorce: "But
from the beginning of the creation, God ‘made them male and female.’
‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined
to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no
longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let
not man separate”" (Mark
How can heterosexuals stand against the homosexual challenges to God’s design of Biblical Marriage when “so called” Christians have no better rate of divorce than non-believers?
The bond of marriage (when respected) leads to the good of not only the couple and their children, but also to the good of the society as a whole, for the family unit is the building block of any society.
Today’s generation has no shame.
Please consider: 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (NASB)
P.S. Always remember that God placed the responsibility to teach children the things of God on the fathers, NOT on the local church.
If I were to keep quiet, the stones would cry out !
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